In ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) it is hard to sit and do nothing. For example, the ADHD individual can sit for roughly ten seconds and then they have to move. An average person can sit in a chair and do nothing for a prolonged period of time. If the ADHD individual is good at something, they will excel at that activity. For example, talking about sports all day long. However, if it is something that they cannot do, they will shut down.
Learning from error in the ADHD person is not possible. Forcing a positive pattern results in creating an automatic pattern of desired behaviour, which increases success.
I ______________________, promise, to the best of my ability to focus my attention on following through with the morning routine modeled by my parents. Additionally, I will come to notice that one morning I will be dressed and ready on my own. I understand that it is in my best interest to work consistently at this goal in order to develop healthy life skills and feel better about myself.
- Review each nugget of the morning routine and schedule.
- Make sure clothes are laid out the night before, if you want.
- Continue to refer back to the agenda.
- Mental reminder to stay the course, be firm and clear.
ACTIVITIES (Management steps)
- Be present when your child gets out of bed, brushes their teeth, gets dressed and heads for breakfast.
- Direct them to the task, but do not do it for them.
- Curtail distractions such as having the television on or gaming devices.
- Commit to using a positive tone. Direction needs to be firm and clear.
- Daily repetition means the morning routine will eventually become automatic and remain. This must be administered until the child emerges with a demonstrated ability to do it without you there.
- Meditation (E.G. “The Honest Guy” ~ YouTube)
- Regular exercise (cardio: treadmill, elliptical, jogging, weight lifting depending on age)
- Demanding a successful outcome results in implementing the pattern on a morning-to-morning basis. As such, the child becomes successful and the process becomes automatic.
- Sticking with your child gives the child the confidence and reassurance that they can do it and be successful on their own.
- Success breeds further success.
I have succeeded in discovering the keys to managing my morning routine. Attacking the expectations through parental direction has given me a more positive feeling about myself. The skill of being able to get up and follow through with my responsibilities have been learned and now can be done automatically.